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**Imagine me peering up at you, with my head still on the table**
I’m a soccer mom.
The girls are both going to be in spring soccer, and practices start next week. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad they’re excited to be involved in some sort of team sport. It’s good for them.
On the other hand, there are days I feel like I’m still 25 and I should be worrying about what adult beverage I’m going to have and where I’m going on vacation.
Now it’s about soccer shoes, shin guards, practices, games, and getting a good folding chair where I can place my ass while this is all going on. It’s about getting homework done, not spoiling the kids but letting them have a fun childhood. Bedtimes, baths, brushing teeth, eating good food, doing well in school, making friends, birthday parties and loving your sister.
This was my plan, don’t get me wrong. But it feels like I created this plan just a few months ago instead of 15 years ago. Time sure flies when you’re having fun…and taking care of two small humans.
Now, I just need to know…is it mandatory that I get one of those soccer ball stickers for my car? God, I hope not.
Today I saw a post on facebook from an old co-worker. I haven’t seen her in years, but thanks to facebook, I know she has a little girl and lives in Ohio. She seems super happy. I always liked Kerri, and enjoyed working with her. (We also had fun on her 21st birthday, but we won’t talk about that now).
So, Kerri actually left the bartender life to become a pilot. But now, here she is, at home with her little one. What does she do? She starts her own at-home business (becomes a MOMtrepreneur). She started making hair clips and bows. They’re so cute! And definitely something you can’t find just anywhere. As they say, a picture is worth 1,000 words:
Aren’t they cute? I’m a little jealous, though. Why? Well first off, I’m not that crafty. Not in real life, anyway. I can be crafty on my handy dandy laptop, but not with actual MATERIALS. Look: I made this ninja over the weekend:
So, I’m jealous that she’s crafty. And I’m jealous that her daughter will actually wear hair clips. Not mine. Not for longer than 30 minutes, anyway. But, I’m not very much into accessories, so I guess I can’t expect my kids to be into them.
But I think it’s awesome that she started a business. So, you should check out her blog, Elle Belle’s Bows! And us moms? We’re like that. I’ve been a virtual assistant, hocked my t-shirts online (still do that), and done all the boring paperwork gobbidy-gook for the restaurant from home. Oh, and gone back to school. My friend watches kids for extra cash. One of our waitresses also bakes cookies on the side. You can’t keep a mom back. The internet has opened up all sorts of opportunities for moms, and I love to see a mom start something new. Or finish something they started. Or go back to school. Or keep on working outside the house. Anything but that whole stereotypical fifties mom wearing an apron and having a martini and dinner ready for her husband as he walks through the door.
Nothing against the boys. They’ve been starting businesses forever. But to juggle the kids, a business, the house, the laundry…you get the idea. Moms really DO rock.
And that’s all I have to say about that
Um, I’m not sure if I have stepped into somebody else’s life or what. Today, my kids slept in. After we decided that it was too hot to go to summer rec, they played. I got things accomplished. They played. There were no fights about what we were going to do with the rest of the day. I was going to take them to the movies, but there was nothing to see (because we’ve seen Toy Story 3 twice now). They said they wanted to go to Giggles and Smiles. OK, I could handle that. A quick trip to Lowes (and there was no complaining!), and we headed to the mall. A quick lunch (and there was no complaining about sharing a drink!), and I dropped them off. An hour to myself. It was an hour in a mall without spending any money, but hey…I was alone! After I picked them up, we walked around the mall a bit. I even splurged on a couple of tees for them at Justice. (Granted, everything was 40% off). They smelled some lotion and candles with me, and off we went.
Next stop? Grocery shopping. They wanted to go into the Eagle’s Nest (which is a little child care facility inside of Giant Eagle). Fine with me…more alone time. I was so happy with their behavior, I bought them some silly bands to split. We came home, they played more. There was NO FIGHTING. They agreed on what they wanted for dinner. They ate nicely.
Would you like to know what they are doing right now? They are doing their Summer school work. Without complaining. Dare I even say, enjoying it?
If I was transported into another dimension, I’d like to stay here, please. Next I’m going to see if they clean up like they said they would. Then it’s our favorite summertime show…Wipeout. (Oh my gosh, as I type this they just shared their candy!!!!!!!!!!!)
Well, as I sit here on the last Friday of school, I’m thinking about the summer and the girls going to school in the fall. I’m very much looking forward to summer. I love that the girls will sleep in a bit. No more 6:30 a.m. wake ups. I love that they can stay up a little later, and they don’t get all crankified. (Yes, I made up a word.) I love stopping for ice cream, catching an afternoon movie, and visiting with friends and family that we’re too busy to visit with while school is in session.
There are parts of summer that get a little trying, though. Although Becca and Chloe generally get along, there will be afternoons where they can’t be in the same room together without being mean to each other. I’m sure there will also be lots of “I’m bored!!!” and “There’s nothing to do!” I’ll take it though. I think I’m ready. But if you talk to me in August, I might be singing a different tune.
My friend Marlo asked me yesterday if I was going to be sad that they are both going to be in school all day come the fall. You know what? I’m not. I don’t mean that in a greedy way, though. I will definitely miss all our little conversations and cuddles. And I WILL like to have some time back to myself. But more than anything, I’m proud of them. I’m proud of they way the girls became great friends on vacation. I’m proud of they way they made friends in the pool. I love that they are buddies, and ready to take on the Primary School as a team. I’m proud that they’re not extremely annoying or mean to other people.
I really think that I will enjoy watching them flourish, watching them make more friends, help people and become more confident. I’m excited for the unknown that will happen as they grow older. I will mention, though, that my tune may again change when they are older…like 13 and 15. I can’t see that being too easy.
Have a great weekend, and GET READY FOR SUMMER!
Well, after a crazy week of returning to my regularly scheduled life, Chloe graduated from preschool. I can’t believe that she’s going to be in kindergarten. I can’t believe I now have a five year old and a seven year old. Crazy.
Chloe’s graduation ceremony was very cute (her teacher has always done a great job!). It will be strange not driving to the preschool…I’ve been driving there for four years. Here’s a little clip of Chloe. She must have still been on vacation mode, too. She yawned through the entire thing.
And here’s a little clip of her getting her preschool diploma:
I am ALMOST back into the swing of things. However, after a very fun pool party at our friends’ home, I was a bit sluggish today. Those frozen concoctions were going down way too easily! So, now that Memorial Day Weekend is almost over, we’re gearing up for summer. I think we’re all ready for later bedtimes and a bit of sleeping in. Talk to you all soon!