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Bucket List Part 2

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As a continuation of yesterday’s Friday’s post, here is the second half of the Bucket List I wrote on a cocktail napkin when I was drunk, in a bar, 24 years old and a woman scorned ;)

Bucket List 1994 Part 2

  1. Inspire Bill for  idea for a book (I think I did this that night, but I can’t remember the book idea)
  2. Teach Tony a lesson (remember…we were broken up.  And I taught him a lesson – I married him :) )
  3. Learn how to fix a car
  4. Be in a talk show audience
  5. Roast a turkey – It wasn’t exactly the most fantastic turkey, but it wasn’t terrible
  6. Quit smoking – nope, haven’t done that one yet
  7. Convince Janelle she’s not fat (Janelle was a co-worker of ours.  She was not fat. Haven’t seen her in years.)
  8. Go to Fiji
  9. Open a bar (I’m surprised this was on my list back then.  But did it…livin’ the dream)
  10. Get a degree (Although I attended college, I never did get a degree.  I’m not sure I want that one to stay on the list, though.  In my opinion, I can learn what I want to learn without getting a degree.  The only reason I would need a degree would be to advance at a job.  I plan on being my own boss for the rest of my life)
  11. Drink at Sal’s Bar – Sal’s bar was a little bar in Crafton, PA.  It was an old guy bar. But I always wanted to go in.  I did.  It burned down a few years after I went in, so it’s a good thing I crossed it off when I did.
  12. Get a tattoo – I did that.  Twice.  And they were both during that ‘break-up year.’
  13. Marry a rich man – Semantics, semantics.  Tony was not rich when we married.  We are not rich now.  But who’s to say we won’t become rich?  I’m holding out for that.
  14. Scuba Diving – I’ve been snorkeling, but never scuba diving.
  15. Get a bitchin’ car – Yeah, that’s still on the list.  Unless you count a Chrysler Pacifica as a bitchin’ car.   No?  I didn’t think so :P
  16. Drive on the autoban – Another interesting one….
  17. Be on a t.v. show
  18. See a volcano
  19. Belly button pierced – that was when I was skinny.  No more.
  20. Go to Seattle
  21. Finish this list (I think it was actually ‘finish writing this list.’  That’s why it’s crossed off)
  22. Paint a picture

So, that was the bucket list from way back when.  Sorry I didn’t get to finish this weekend.  I met up with old friends, headed to the science center, cleaned, napped…it was all good.

Anyway, you’ll notice that there’s no mention of kids or a family on this list.  Well, if I had written this list either six months earlier or six months later, that stuff would have been on there.   But, as I said, I was a woman scorned at the time, and had (temporarily) given up on the whole “white picket fence, 2.2 kids, American dream” thing.

I’m going to work on this list.  And, I think I’ll create a new one.  I may leave some stuff off that’s on this old list.  But I have plenty more to add.  I’ll need to think about it a little.  I’d love to see your bucket list!  Please share :)  You can leave a link in the comments here, or send me something on twitter (@hdowney) or facebook (

Have a great day!

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Bucket List Part 1

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Well, I’ve figured out what to write about.  I am no longer in my little funk.  I’m a glowing ball of sunshine (a little sarcasm there).  I think we’re going to plan a trip to Idlewild.  I think.

Anyway, I was poking around in the garage, seeing if I had enough crap to participate in our neighborhood garage sale.  I didn’t get very much accomplished, but I DID come across a bunch of old memories.  I looked through yearbooks.  I found an old program from my High School musical.  And I found this:

Bucket List 1994 part 1

It’s a list of things I want to do before I die.  There’s some more on the other side, so I’ll save that for tomorrow. So, let’s investigate this a little further, mmmmkay?  Just remember – when I wrote this I was 24, drinking beer in a bar, and Tony and I were ‘on a break.’ (read:  he broke up with me, and we didn’t get back together for a year).

  1. Kill Bill (Bill was my very good friend at the time. I didn’t really want to kill him, but he must have been getting on my nerves)
  2. Skydiving – Yes, I’ve had the opportunity a couple of times recently.  I will do this.  Maybe next year.
  3. Learn to play the harmonica – Interesting…
  4. New Ride at Kennywood.  I still haven’t ridden this.  At this time, the new ride was the Skycoaster. I just haven’t gotten to it yet, because I’m not a fan of parting with the money.  But I will.
  5. Ice Skating – I had done it when I wrote this, but I wanted to make sure I did it again.  I did
  6. Roller SkatingUm, same as number 5
  7. White Water Rafting – Did it, had fun, drank beer after.
  8. Skiing (Ski) – I think I meant snow skiing here :) I’ve still never gone. I don’t really want to.  But I should do it once in my life
  9. Skiing (Water) – Again, never did it.  Don’t really WANT to, but I should.
  10. NYC – I have been to New York.  We went in high school and saw Cats.  But I want to go back one more time.
  11. Disney World – When I wrote this, I had only been there as a kid.  I have since gone with Tony a couple of times.
  12. Cancun – Yup, same as number eleven.
  13. Paintball – I have played paintball.  But I don’t think (although I’m not exactly sure) that I’ve done it again since I wrote this list.
  14. Ride a Dolphin
  15. Go to Idaho (Please, remember…I was drinking when I wrote this…no offense to anybody in Idaho)
  16. Move Out – I did this a few months after writing this
  17. Blow a bubble bigger than my head
  18. Milk a cow
  19. Surf
  20. Parasail
  21. See Pearl Jam in concert (Not so sure I’m up for concerts, but I’d try again for Pearl Jam.  I think.)
  22. Eat 1 lb of grape jelly beans (There’s no way I could do it in one sitting, though)
  23. Build a cool sand castle (I’ve build sand castles, but nothing really COOL)
  24. Pet a giraffe
  25. See Letterman
  26. Kill 2 birds with 1 stone ( I think I meant this literally…if not, I can cross it off)
  27. Go to Vegas (Yup, never been to Vegas)
  28. Meet Brad Pitt

Stay tuned for 29-50 tomorrow!

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Wow, this week has just cruised on by! We had a great Mother’s Day at Kennywood!  The lines were almost non-existent, the weather was cool but nice, and we had a great time.  Here’s my favorite picture of the girls from that day:

That’s them on the kiddie coaster. But they had a great time on the Jackrabbit, too!
I thought I would share some of my Mother’s Day love…and laughs.  First off, I got a very cute card from Chloe that she made in preschool.  Inside, it had a cute photo of her out in the garden.  Then, I got Becca’s card.  She had been talking about it for three days.  It was a big surprise.  I totally cried when I read it.  Here are some of the pages:

So, that one is “My favorite time together is when we…lay together in my bed.”  Cute.  Really, though, my legs aren’t quite that skinny.  

Yup, Becca wants to give me an indoor pool.  Not quite sure where we would put that one…and I think it may be more for HER.

Yup, this one makes me cry.  How totally sweet.  Really, I look like ass in the morning.   But at least I have my daughters snowed.  And I’m not sure why I don’t have any clothes on in this picture, but I don’t sleep in the buff.  I’m always too cold for that.  Now the next one has a little story:
Now, at first look it seems innocent enough.  “My favorite thing about my mother is we both like to play.”  I was reading the little book/card out loud.  When I got to this page, Becca exclaimed “Hey!  It’s not supposed to say we both like to play!  It’s suppposed to say we both want a slave!”
The laughter just roared out of my mouth.  I said “Becca, I never said I wanted a SLAVE.  I said I wanted a MAID!”  I explained how having people as slaves is a completely terrible idea.  She was fine with my explanation.  Then I wondered…did the teacher choose not to write the whole slave thing because she felt uncomfortable with that?  I mean, I may have done the same thing…don’t get me wrong.  Then I thought ‘play’ and ‘slave’ could sound very much alike.  Especially in a noisy kindergarten classroom.  I was hoping that she heard ‘play’ instead of ‘slave’ because I really don’t want the teacher to think that I was upset with the outcome of the Civil War.  Then I looked at the picture.  Looks to me like somebody is bringing me and Becca something to eat at a table.  Servants?  Cooks?  OK, that I can handle.  I have a bunch of money and I pay them well.  I’m fine with that.
But not slaves.
Hell, I can’t even get my kids to clean up their toys.
So, that’s my Mother’s Day chuckle.  Sorry I waited a while to share it.  I had this crazy flu/cold all week.  Producing one pound of snot per hour takes a lot of energy out of ya.  But I’m almost back to normal (as normal as I can be, anyway).  
More later :)

One Ticket to My Past, Please

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First, let me say that I’m sorry for not posting over the past week or so. I truly got on vacation mode. Good thing I was actually on vacation. I relaxed. Really relaxed. I swam. Tony and I actually went OUT and had appetizers and drinks. I also plowed through three books while on vacation (more on those later – The Sookie Stackhouse novels – love ‘em). And you know what else I did? I posted some old pics on Facebook.

Now that was fun. Because I was at my folks’ house, there was a treasure chest of old photos. I tried not to be TOO embarrassing. Well, not to anybody else, anyway. I really don’t mind embarrassing myself. At all. Anyway, here are some of the pics that I posted, for your viewing pleasure.

I actually posted the entire class picture, but I didn’t want to step on any toes here on the blog. But, do you see that? Would you like to compare Look at Chloe:

Now, there’s a 3 year age difference here, and I was limited to whatever pics I have on my laptop (‘cuz I’m comfy on the couch, here), but there really is a crazy resemblance. I mean, she does have my genes and all…so I shouldn’t be surprised. So, here is what she may look like in 17 years:

My entire family thought I looked like Joanna Kearns in this picture. I guess I sort of do.

So, where have I been going with this? Well, since being on Facebook and catching up with lots of old friends (from grade school and high school), I’ve been reflecting a bit. To be quite honest with you, there are large chunks of grade school and high school that I don’t remember. I mean, I remember the big things that happened, and if somebody tells a story I may remember some of the smaller things. But I don’t remember the details. And I’m fine with that. I’ve never been one to dwell on the past. Ever. If I’m looking at old photos, my brain might dance there for a while, but I’ve never been a ‘Coulda, shoulda, woulda’ kind of girl. My focus is always on the future. (So much so that I sometimes forget to enjoy the present). And I like it that way.

There were a bunch of us commenting on a photo from high school, and the conversation turned towards what we would have done different in high school. I’ll be the first to admit…high school wasn’t all peaches and cream. And my first instinct is that I would have not worried about boyfriends and spent more time with friends. But then I realized that if I didn’t go through EXACTLY what I went through when I was younger, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. If I didn’t date the people I dated, befriend the people I befriended, go to the parties I went to, have ALL of the relationships I’ve had…I may be different right now. And I like me. Yes, there are some things I would like to improve. But all in all, I’m good company for myself.

And hopefully I’m good company for you! So, it’s now 2:30 am. I’ve had four hours of sleep already, and I think I’ll head up for 3 or 4 more.

That whole ‘improve’ thing. Definitely want to improve my sleeping schedule!!!!

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Crazy Life

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Sorry I haven’t posted in a while. I have a plan. I’ll post something original tonight. But for now, here’s a little nugget. I was tagged on Facebook with ’25 Things About Me.’ So, here’s what I wrote:

1. I think college is overrated, but I’ll never tell my kids that
2. I watch ‘Dazed and Confused’ whenever I come across it on tv
3. I make the best damned sweet tea
4. Bananas make me sick (literally)
5. I still have dreams that I work at West Coast Video (I worked there until I was 23)
6. I have a goal of making my living completely online
7. I believe in the Law of Attraction
8. I think I have a touch of Seasonal Affective Disorder
9. Even after being a bartender and owning a restaurant, I don’t really like dealing with real, live people.
10. I actually used to like Milli Vanilli (before the lip sync thing was revealed)
11. I secretly want to be a Rock Star
12. Watching people put a napkin or paper towel in their mouth totally gives me the heebie-jeebies. Like nails down a chalk board.
13. I don’t know how to drive a stick shift
14. My father made me do donuts the first time it snowed after I got my license. MADE me.
15. My oldest daughter was 4 lbs and 6 weeks early
16. Once I found out the oldest daughter was perfectly healthy, I was SOOOOO glad I wasn’t pregnant anymore.
17. I gave my oldest daughter my middle name (Gwen)
18. My younger daughter’s middle name is for my parents (Rayann = RAY + Carol ANN)
19. I truly believe I met my Father In Law in one very vivid dream right before my Mother In Law passed away.
20. I worry about my parents – But still think my Dad is the smartest guy I know
21. I want to lose 20 pounds
22. I hate to paint walls, but like to paint furniture
23. The word ‘Warshing” (Pittsburgh-ese for washing) goes right through me.
24. I think that I can sing ‘Mercedes Benz’ very well. This has never been confirmed.
25. I don’t like to go into the ocean.

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