No Lookin’ Back


In the past few months, I’ve re-connected with some people from high school on Facebook.  It’s been awesome.  I’ve come to a couple of realizations, though.  First off, everything is a little fuzzy in my memory from the time I was fifteen up until about the time I was nineteen.  I mean, I know the big stuff that happened.  Who I dated, learning to drive, etc.  But I forget a lot of the details.  The day-in, day-out stuff.  Actual pieces of conversation?  Forget it.  My memories from that time are more like still photos instead of video.

Some of my friends have amazing memories and remember lots of details.  Not me.  Not at all.  And it’s not like I have bad stuff to block out from that time in my life.  Unlike a lot of people, I didn’t mind high school all that much.  I sort of gave up on it in my Senior year, but I didn’t really hate it.  There were a few parts that I REALLY enjoyed.  Especially the theater/musical/stage crew stuff.  And those are the people I’ve been reconnecting with.

Here’s the other thing I realized.  I have no regrets.  I’ve always lived this way.  I’ve looked for the silver lining in things.  If there’s something I want to do, I either do it or plan on doing it.  Here’s how I came to this conclusion:

I was meeting with an old friend and his family and an old teacher. (not that they’re OLD, but I’ve known them for a long time…you know what I mean!).  I hope they don’t mind me talking about them :)  Anyway, my friend said that if he could, he’d love to go back to being a chef.  And my teacher said that if he were to choose another career, he’d either be a chef or a set designer.  Now, we didn’t discuss this in depth, and I can’t speak for whether or not they are planning on doing these things later in their lives.  But there was nothing that I wish I would have done.  I always wanted to try to sell real estate.  In high school, when other girls were reading ‘Seventeen,’  I was grabbing the Harmon Homes magazine at the grocery store and looking at all the homes for sale.  So, I finally did it.  It took me some time, and I had to wait until the right moment in life, but I tried it.  I’m glad I did it.  I’m also glad I don’t sell real estate anymore.  I’m super glad I got in and learned the business.  And I’m super glad I got out of it.  I learned a lot of things that I apply to other areas in my life right now.

This does not mean that there aren’t things that I want to do.  If you’ve been a reader for a while, you know that I’d like to make a living online.  So, I’m working on that.  Sometimes I work on that a lot, and sometimes just a little.  But I’m trying it.

So, what’s the point?

The point is, I don’t think that anybody should be eighty years old and think “I wish I woulda…”  Try stuff.  Take chances.  Do the right thing, treat people well.  Treat yourself well.

I have one thing that I’m really good at.  I’m good at convincing people to do things.  To take a risk.  To have no regrets.  My friend Bill whined about wanting to become a comedian.  I pestered and annoyed him so much that he finally just did it.  Tony always wanted to own a restaurant.  Over the past few years, I basically told him to get off his ass and do it because I was sick of hearing about it.

I now envision all of you getting yourself jazzed about just going out and doing SOMETHING.  Right!?!?!   Right?!?!?!?

Well, you can’t say I didn’t try.

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  1. Barbara says:

    Excellent post. I don’t look back and regret; the path I took was the path I took, and it’s made me the person I am today. I’m all about the risk-taking, anyway. :) I’ve done lots of things that don’t seem to make sense to other people, but were personally fulfilling to me. Glad to hear you;re the same way. I’m also a big fan of the ‘get off your ass and do it then’ kinda people. Must be why I like you. :)

  2. Heather says:

    Barb – that must be why I like you, too! Life is too boring if you don’t take a risk now and again.

  3. Jenn says:

    Maybe I’ll tell you about my latest roadblock and you can pester me through it, too :).

    You used to sell real estate? We may need some pointers from you soon:) Now, if only you owned an electronics store . . .

  4. Hop says:

    Heat, awesome post. I’m learning that very lesson now…I’ve put too much of myself away on a shelf to care for others. After my grandmother passed away a few weeks back at the ripe old age of 92, I realized that I had really lost a huge part of what was really me, what mattered to me, what I wanted from life. And meeting back up with you all has shown me how far off-track I’ve gotten. Thanks!!! :-) I am looking towards the future more now than ever and getting myself back where I wanted to be. No more “I wish I wouldas” for me… except for that skydiving thing. Nope, still can’t work up the ballz…

  5. Heather says:

    Yup, I worked for Howard Hanna for a little more than four years. And Hop – if you ever need a kick in the ass to get goin’, I’m the girl for the job. Off topic – guess what I saw is playing this weekend at Stage 62? Little Shop of Horrors. Talk about shoulda, coulda, woulda….

  6. oddFrogg says:

    Wonderful post, one I really connect with. I love to travel and have somehow managed to do lots of it. More recently, I’ve focused on something else I’ve always wanted to do and that is start a business. While it’s not financially successful yet, it’s there. I actually did it! And, even with time constraints, I continue to work it every day. And I’m learning more each day. And I love it.

    I’m with you, Heather. If there’s something you want to do, follow your heart and do it. No matter if you don’t do it brilliantly, do it anyway!

  7. Heather says:

    That’s exactly it, oddFrog. Even if you don’t do it brilliantly, do it anyway!!!! I don’t want to be sitting in the (probably crappy ‘cuz my kids will pick it) nursing home thinking “I wonder what would have happened if I would have just…”

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